Weekend not off to a great start

Saturday, September 20th, 2008 | Uncategorized

A friend of mine’s had a rough last few years: parental health problems, had to put his young dog down (they found out later her illness was caused by a part of a toy she ate), and finally, a separation he didn’t see coming, followed by a divorce.

A little less than a year ago, his luck changed. He met a great girl. They hit it off and began dating in December. Even nine months later, they were still making goo-goo eyes at each other. They were very clearly in love. We were all really happy for him. Everyone thought this girl was really great.

Early this summer, she was diagnosed with lupus. In July, she started having some issues with the illness and by mid-August, she was absolutely miserable. She checked into the hospital about a month ago for what was supposed to be three to four days of treatment because she was retaining so much fluid, her breathing was becoming compromised. As of the beginning of this week, she was still there, but now in ICU. By Tuesday, she was on oxygen and continuous dialysis. She had compression wraps on her legs because the circulation was nearly gone. The family was told that if she made it through, she’d lose her legs. Things were looking very, very bad. The doctors suggested her parents call in the family.

On Friday morning, her family was forced to make the decision to keep her on the machines or to let her go. At 10:30am, the machines were turned off. At 1pm, she died. She was 26-years-old.

Everyone’s just devastated. Things like this aren’t supposed to happen to people that young. Lupus is supposed to be something a person can live with for many years.

About the only good thing to come out of yesterday was watching the steady stream of friends coming to offer comfort and whatever else they could for my friend. He’s got a great support network. I hope we can all provide him a little comfort.

5 Comments to Weekend not off to a great start


My god. I’m so sorry. For him and her family and you. So, so sorry. So sad.


That’s the sort of loss that just isn’t possible to understand.. I feel so sad for everyone involved. .Do you think there will be some sort of memorial?

czeltic girl

The family’s doing something private next weekend. There was some talk last night of maybe doing something at Paddy’s for her friends down here (she was at school at UWM), but that will depend upon whether those close to her want to do that.

La C.

I have been feeling stupidly sorry for myself lately. I just got some major perspective. My thoughts go out to your friend and all the family that are suffering from this loss.


I am at a loss for words. Sometimes there is no sense to it all. I am sorry for your fiends loss.

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